{"id":15000,"date":"2018-07-13T14:18:25","date_gmt":"2018-07-13T12:18:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ana.ciorici.com\/?p=15000"},"modified":"2018-08-24T10:18:55","modified_gmt":"2018-08-24T08:18:55","slug":"easy-integration-for-your-child-in-a-new-country","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ana.ciorici.com\/2018\/07\/13\/easy-integration-for-your-child-in-a-new-country\/","title":{"rendered":"Easy Integration For Your Child in a New Country"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Most of my english speakers do not know, but we moved in The Netherlands six months ago. We have a one year old child and a four year old, that started school right away.<\/p>\n

I was not worried and still am not for my one year old, as he has three more years to go to day care, socialize with dutch kids, learn dutch words and expressions and integrate easily when he turns four and goes to school. For him, that will be an easy and pretty normal transition.<\/p>\n

But for my daughter Emilia, that was four years and three months when she started school in Amsterdam in January, things were different.<\/p>\n

Let’s start with the fact that my husband works in IT and owns his own company, also can do things from home. I have some income from Moldova, a thing that does not stress me or us regarding our monthly income. That is an important fact, because I have all the time in the world to spend with Emilia and make her integration in the dutch educational & cultural system easier. But there are some important facts that I’ve read myself that makes kids transition from one culture to another easier.<\/p>\n

Here are some things I did to get my kid used to the dutch culture and people here in Amsterdam.<\/p>\n

– Talk to your child about the change that is coming everyday. Explain, show them where they are going and what will be different. Talk to them about every detail and what is different and new. Especially pay attention to the language part. And make them communicate with you every time they have a problem.<\/p>\n

– For the first days or even weeks you will be able to go to school with your child. Go and do not hesitate, stay close by and go in every time there is a problem. Translate to your kid everything they are doing in school till she learns the routine.<\/p>\n

– Dutch parents are very easy going and very nice. If you approach them with any question, they will always help you. So, be nice & talk to the parents, present yourself and take the numbers of the parents that are in the parent committee. Ask any question and somebody will be nice and talk to you.<\/p>\n

– Communicate with the school & the teacher mostly about your child. Just anything about the system, the help and how your child is doing. Communication is the key to everything.<\/p>\n

– Remember you are a stranger and you are in a different country. Do not be in any way annoyed with the fact that parents or anybody else is talking in their language in front of you. This is normal as they are in their country and have spoken their own language their whole life.<\/p>\n

– Here it is normal to organize lots of playdates for the kids after school. Do not hesitate, ask your child who he or she wants to play with. Invite different kids to your house for playdates. Go to the park with them, play at home and do different activities. You should have the initiative to invite other kids from class to your house. They lived here their entire life and do not expect them to invite your child first, as they already have friends. Make the move.<\/p>\n

– Integrate your kids and yourself with anybody local. Do not stay in your Moldovan circle. Socialising is the key. Ask other parents what are the activities their kids are doing and do the same. <\/p>\n

– I know it is hard, but after the first 6 months things will get on their own and everything will be much easier. Patience is the thing we all need to learn to embrace.<\/p>\n

Good Luck everyone!<\/p>\n

[RO]<\/strong> Au trecut deja 7 luni de c\u00eend ne-am mutat \u00een Amsterdam, \u0219i am decis s\u0103 scriu aici ni\u0219te momente care ne-a ajutat pe noi, dar mai mult pe copii \u00een perioada de tranzi\u021bie de la o \u021bar\u0103 \u0219i o cultur\u0103, la alta.<\/p>\n

Cine nu \u0219tie, noi avem doi copii. Unul de aproape 2 ani \u0219i altul de aproape 5, care imediat la mutare a mers la \u0219coal\u0103. \u00cen Olanda copiii merg la \u0219coal\u0103 exact a doua zi dup\u0103 ce \u00eemplinesc 4 ani. E acela\u0219i mod relaxat de educare ca \u00een gr\u0103dini\u021bele din Moldova, doar c\u0103 e \u0219coal\u0103 primar\u0103 \u0219i multe chestii stau total diferit.<\/p>\n

Anyway, pentru micul de 2 ani nu mi-am f\u0103cut griji absolut deloc, precum are la dispozi\u021bie mai mult de doi ani pentru a merge la day care \u0219i a \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba olandeza. Dar pentru Emilia, care a mers direct la o \u0219coal\u0103 \u00eentr-o limb\u0103 ireal de grea ( a\u0219a p\u0103rea la \u00eenceput), cu sistem nou de educa\u021bie, profesoar\u0103 nou\u0103, \u0219coal\u0103 nou\u0103, copii noi \u0219i absolut totul divers, un pic \u00eemi f\u0103ceam griji.<\/p>\n

Dar vreau s\u0103 v\u0103 relatez mai jos c\u00eeteva momente, care cred eu c\u0103 au ajutat-o pe ea s\u0103 treac\u0103 mai u\u0219or peste prima perioad\u0103 de adaptare. Nu uita\u021bi, cazul nostru este unul particular, dar consider c\u0103 aceste momente poate ajuta mult\u0103 lume care se mut\u0103. <\/p>\n

De asemenea, este tare bine c\u00eend \u00een momentul mut\u0103rii, m\u0103car unul din p\u0103rin\u021bi se mut\u0103 cu un job stabilit ( cum a fost la noi) sau cu un income din alt\u0103 afacere ( tot cum este la noi). Anyway, \u00eenainte de mutarea cu copiii, la fel pute\u021bi aplica la multele oferte care exist\u0103 pe pia\u021ba din Olanda de exemplu. Lucrurile stau \u0219i mai simplu, precum limba engleza este \u0219i ea una de baz\u0103 aici \u00een Amsterdam. Aceasta este o alt\u0103 tem\u0103 de discu\u021bie, dar am sim\u021bit s\u0103 fac parantez\u0103 \u0219i redirec\u021bionare la cazul nostru.<\/p>\n

Deci,<\/p>\n

– \u00cenainte de mutare, vorbi\u021bi cu copii despre acest subiect. Cu c\u00eeteva luni \u00eenainte povesti\u021bile ce ve\u021bi face, unde merge\u021bi \u0219i ce va fi diferit. Este absolut necesar s\u0103 \u00eei preg\u0103ti\u021bi emo\u021bional pentru tot ce va urma. Nu uita\u021bi s\u0103 le r\u0103spunde\u021bi la toate \u00eentreb\u0103rile pe care le vor avea ei.<\/p>\n

– Pentru primele s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00eeni ve\u021bi avea libertatea de a-l asista la ore pentru a face adaptarea lui mai u\u0219oar\u0103. Comunica\u021bi mult cu profesoara \u0219i povesti\u021bii copilului rutina de la \u0219coal\u0103. Pentru \u00eenceput traduce\u021bi-i multe lucruri despre care este curios. Nu uita\u021bi, f\u0103ce\u021bi-l curios despre tot ce este diferit \u0219i entuziasma\u021bi-l cu multe lucruri pozitive pe care le fac copiii la noua \u0219coal\u0103.<\/p>\n

– P\u0103rin\u021bii olandezi sunt foarte deschi\u0219i \u0219i \u00ee\u021bi vor s\u0103ri mereu \u00een ajutor. Lua\u021bi numerele lor de telefoane, prezenta\u021biv\u0103 pe voi \u0219i pe copil \u0219i comunica\u021bi c\u00eet mai mult cu ei. La toate \u0219colile exist\u0103 comitet de p\u0103rin\u021bi. Face\u021bi cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 cu ei \u0219i implica\u021biv\u0103 c\u00eet mai mult pentru a cunoa\u0219te tot despre sistem \u0219i \u0219coal\u0103.<\/p>\n

– Comunica\u021bi foarte mult cu profesoara despre copilul vostru. \u00centreba\u021bi ce face, cum o duce \u0219i cum i-a fost ziua. Ruga\u021bi-o frumos s\u0103 v\u0103 \u021bie la curent cu tot \u0219i cum este mai bine s\u0103 proceda\u021bi. Ave\u021bi \u00eencredere \u00een profesori, chiar dac\u0103 par prea relaxa\u021bi ( a\u0219a sunt olandezii) \u0219i urma\u021bile sfaturile.<\/p>\n

– Nu uita\u021bi c\u0103 sunte\u021bi nou venit \u0219i str\u0103in \u00een \u021bara lor \u0219i nu este deloc cazul s\u0103 v\u0103 sim\u021bi\u021bi ofensa\u021bi dac\u0103 de la englez\u0103, mul\u021bi dintre p\u0103rin\u021bi trec automat \u00een olandez\u0103 c\u00eend vorbesc \u00eentre ei. Ei au crescut aici \u0219i mul\u021bi dintre ei au \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat la acelea\u0219i \u0219coli sau universit\u0103\u021bi. Este ceva firesc. Dac\u0103 ave\u021bi posibilitate, \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba\u021bi limba ( cum voi face \u0219i eu din septembrie).<\/p>\n

– Aici \u00een Olanda se organizeaz\u0103 foarte multe playdates pentru copii dup\u0103 \u0219coal\u0103. Implica\u021biv\u0103 \u00een aceast\u0103 activitate, \u00eentreba\u021bi copilul cu cine se \u00eempac\u0103 bine la \u0219coal\u0103 \u0219i organiza\u021bile play date-ri la voi acas\u0103. Nu v\u0103 a\u0219tepta\u021bi s\u0103 v\u0103 invite cineva de la \u0219coal\u0103, ci face\u021bi voi mereu primul pas. Mul\u021bi dintre copii au deja prieteni sau vecini cu care se joac\u0103, de aia merge\u021bi voi \u00een \u00eent\u00eempinare. Emilia a f\u0103cut play dates cu trei copii diver\u0219i deja \u0219i a fost foarte bine. Au fost la noi, a mers \u0219i ea la ei. Implica\u021biv\u0103 mult, pentru c\u0103 a\u0219a va \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba limba repede.<\/p>\n

– \u00cencerca\u021bi s\u0103 face\u021bi cu copiii multe activit\u0103\u021bi pe care le fac cei de la \u0219coal\u0103. S\u0103 merge\u021bi la bibliotec\u0103, sau dansuri, sau parcuri.<\/p>\n

– Nimeni nu a zis c\u0103 va fi u\u0219or, dar trebuie s\u0103 ave\u021bi r\u0103bdare. Multe lucruri copiii nu le vor \u021bine minte \u0219i eventual lucrurile se vor aranja.<\/p>\n

V\u0103 doresc muuult\u0103 baft\u0103 tuturor celor care au ales aceast\u0103 cale! \u0218i nu uita\u021bi, ideile voastre sunt extrem de binevenite de asemenea!<\/p>\n

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